November 7, 2019
I respect this nigger.
He is a good father.
Terrible rapper, but a very good father. It’s obvious.
Rapper and actor T.I. said in an interview that aired Tuesday that he goes with his 18-year-old daughter to the gynecologist each year to “check her hymen” and make sure it’s “still intact.”
The online backlash was immediate with many on social media slamming his remarks as disgusting, exemplary of harmful parenting and “horrible on so many levels.”
T.I., whose real name is Clifford Harris, made the remarks on the podcast “Ladies Like Us,” hosted by model Nazanin Mandi and makeup artist Nadia Moham.
When the hosts asked the rapper if he has had ”the sex talk“ with his daughters, T.I. responded: ”Yes,” referring specifically to his daughter, Deyjah Harris, who he said recently began her first year of college. “Not only have we had the conversation. We have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen.”
The hosts laugh and one said: “Deyjah is a prisoner.”
“Yes, I go with her,” T.I. said. After Deyjah’s 16th birthday party, he said he “put a sticky note” on her door that read, “Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30.” He then recounted a gynecologist visit.
“So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk, and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism,” T.I. said. “He’s like, ‘Well, you know, sir, I have to, in order to share information’ — I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this, so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? Oh OK. See, doc? Ain’t no problem.'”
He also said that the gynecologist informed him that the hymen can be broken by means other than sexual intercourse, such as “bike riding, athletics, horseback riding and just other forms of athletic physical activity.”
T.I. said he told the gynecologist: “‘Look doc, she don’t ride no horses. She don’t ride no bike. She don’t play no sports. Just check the hymen please and give me back my results — expeditiously.’”
He then told the podcast hosts: ”I will say, as of her 18th birthday, her hymen is still intact.”
The hymen is a small lining of tissue partially covering the vaginal opening that is traditionally thought to break during the first act of vaginal intercourse, but that perception is increasingly challenged by modern medicine.
Jennifer Gunter, a gynecologist and New York Times contributor, disputed T.I.‘s remarks in a series of tweets Wednesday.
”The hymen is no virginity indicator, 50% of sexually active teens do not have a disrupted hymen,” she wrote. ”The hymen means nothing physically and hymen exams are medically not a thing and are unnecessary. And support a disgusting patriarchal trope.”
I think that is the single weirdest paragraph I’ve ever read.
I’m not going into the biology for you, if you don’t understand this. But that paragraph is absolute insanity.
This one I’ve heard:
asking a doctor to check your daughter to see if she has been having sex is humiliating & sick af.
& you can’t even always tell by a broken hymen. you can break your hymen by hurting yourself on a bike seat.
— patrisha (@patrishaluxe) November 6, 2019
The reverse – “oh, I broke it riding a horse.”
But never in my life have I heard that you have sex and the hymen remains intact. Because that is just bullshit.
Check your daughter’s hymen.
If she knows the check’s coming, she’s gonna be good.
Or at least she’s more likely to be.