October 2, 2019
Some woman wrote a post on the “Am I the Asshole?” (AITA) Reddit community asking if she was an asshole for running up to one of her male friends and platonically kissing him on the lips in front of her boyfriend.
From the Reddit post:
AITA for kissing my platonic male friend on the lips in front of my boyfriend?
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months now. He is American and I am not.
So a few months ago my childhood friend let me know he was coming to visit America and he would be staying in my area for a little while. I was so excited! I haven’t seen him in 2.5 years! I immediately told him I wanted him to stay with me while he was here. At first he told me he did not want to be a burden but after some begging he came around.
When I told my boyfriend about it he seemed very calm and accepting about it. I live in a 2 bedroom apartment and my childhood friend would be sleeping in my guest room for about 4 days. I was happy my bf was ok with it though and was also ecstatic for them to meet.
So today my childhood friend arrived! My bf and I picked him up from the airport and I was so incredibly excited to see him. We ran to each other and hugged and we exchanged a quick very platonic kiss on the lips after. I turned to my boyfriend to introduce them and he immediately looked uncomfortable and upset. He was very short and stiff with my friend and it was honestly just very awkward. The drive home was also a little awkward with him but my friend and I made great conversation catching up and sorts.
When we got home I showed him around my apartment and to his room and told him he could take as long as he wanted to get settled. My bf had went to my room and when I entered he immediately started yelling at me. He told me it was disgusting and disrespectful to kiss him like that on the lips. I was very confused and told him that this was very normal for us and my other friends and family.
We argued a little while longer and then he gave me an ultimatum that either my friend had to leave or he was gone. I told him this was incredibly unreasonable and I was hurt he was doing this. He said nothing and just left.
EDIT: This is a culture thing! Very normal where I am from and my friend sees this platonic as well!
Tough spot, huh?
What would you have done?
Feeling bad when women do this kind of stuff is the result of having been brainwashed into thinking women are actual humans capable of the same things that men are.
It’s not that women are just incapable of the physical and mental feats of men. It’s not that they’re just incapable of creating civilization, inventing stuff, and achieving legendary feats — they are also incapable of loving anyone but themselves and their kids, and they’re not even that good at loving their kids.
This doesn’t mean that you should hate them. There’s really no reason to hate them. Hating them would be like hating a tree for not being a door or hating your computer for not being able to hug you.
The problem is the expectations that most men have of women.
Women aren’t loyal, they aren’t able to love like men are able to love, and they aren’t able to build the things that men are able to build. So what? They’re not supposed to do any of that.
Do you care if your car really loves you when you ride it?
What is even the point of women “loving” you as long as you get what you want out of them?
They are objects. Use them and enjoy them for what they can offer.
Don’t feel bad about what they can’t offer.